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I agree...Ennovi wrote:LesterG wrote: I don't need a sex toy... I wanted a person by my side... forever... not just another person to screw and have follow me like a puppy dog... I always tell her.. We're in this together, I need you by my side not behind me... That's my perspective on a relationship... and that's my opinion, my own...That's soooo sweet.
LesterG wrote:Since this has basically been hijacked and turned into a sexuality thread... I need to comment on the whole threesome thing...
when I first met my wife, we joked around with it and one day she asked me seriously.... (maybe it was a test, but...) I honestly said no. In my perspective, it would be a fantasy... but in the end that's all it ever is... Also I understand the perspective of a double standard so I thought about it and told myself... If I get her to bring another woman... someday she's gunna want me to bring another man... and the thought of her and another man (even if I am there) destroys and kills me... I know it's selfish, but that was my choice(and hers)... and that's what I want to love... so basically I told her that and that's when she hinted that I passed
I don't need a sex toy... I wanted a person by my side... forever... not just another person to screw and have follow me like a puppy dog... I always tell her.. We're in this together, I need you by my side not behind me... That's my perspective on a relationship... and that's my opinion, my own...
Don't ever put words in my mouth.. I understand other peoples sexuality and I respect it... that's their choice... this is mine...
In our culture, we equate sex with love even more that we realize. For those who can keep the two completely separate, then I see nothing wrong with a threesome. Just remember, *all* parties involved need to know how to keep them separate, not just one or two of the parties. Finding three people who can keep love and sex completely separate? Nearly impossible.nobackspacebutton wrote:Regarding 3 somes...a lot of people want them, but really, it can ultimately hurt your relationship.
Marriage was never one guy and two girls or two guys and one girl..its a bond between two people, not three.
Really if you want a threesome, keep it to your fantasys..or just do it before you are in a relationship.
Jealousy drives people mad.
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wintermute wrote:In our culture, we equate sex with love even more that we realize. For those who can keep the two completely separate, then I see nothing wrong with a threesome. Just remember, *all* parties involved need to know how to keep them separate, not just one or two of the parties. Finding three people who can keep love and sex completely separate? Nearly impossible.nobackspacebutton wrote:Regarding 3 somes...a lot of people want them, but really, it can ultimately hurt your relationship.
Marriage was never one guy and two girls or two guys and one girl..its a bond between two people, not three.
Really if you want a threesome, keep it to your fantasys..or just do it before you are in a relationship.
Jealousy drives people mad.
'mute
That would totally be me too. I've offered to do it but I know it would end up hurting me in the end so I've told him no. Thankfully our relationship has become so strong over the last 3 years (added in with those 3 stories I put up in here) he doesn't even want to do that anymore. We have each other and thats all that matters now.nobackspacebutton wrote:wintermute wrote:In our culture, we equate sex with love even more that we realize. For those who can keep the two completely separate, then I see nothing wrong with a threesome. Just remember, *all* parties involved need to know how to keep them separate, not just one or two of the parties. Finding three people who can keep love and sex completely separate? Nearly impossible.nobackspacebutton wrote:Regarding 3 somes...a lot of people want them, but really, it can ultimately hurt your relationship.
Marriage was never one guy and two girls or two guys and one girl..its a bond between two people, not three.
Really if you want a threesome, keep it to your fantasys..or just do it before you are in a relationship.
Jealousy drives people mad.
'mute
Don't get me wrong, I think a 3some would be fun..its just after its over...the aftermath. I know I'm a big romance freak...and it would just break my heart to know my guy got pleasure from another girl. I'm the very jealous type.
::ears perk up like a dogs::LadyBugGirl wrote:I agree...Ennovi wrote:LesterG wrote: I don't need a sex toy... I wanted a person by my side... forever... not just another person to screw and have follow me like a puppy dog... I always tell her.. We're in this together, I need you by my side not behind me... That's my perspective on a relationship... and that's my opinion, my own...
However, I still need sex toys (thankfully I have both)!
You, my dear, are a real man.Eric wrote:I think I'm in the minority here as a guy, but I don't even fantasize about being with two women. It really holds no appeal for me. Maybe I'm just selfish, but I want to concentrate completely on my partner and I want her to be completely into me. Any more participants of either gender would just be a distraction. I don't know, half of the fun for me is knowing how much my partner is enjoying it. I get a thrill out of making my partner feel good.
