Lonelygirl15

i don't think they're kinky. i think they're beautifully written expressing the love shared between two people.

its one thing the bible got right.

horcruxes wrote: songs of solomon is right. or they're called the song of songs.
i used to read them in 7th grade during religion class.

Really? Wow, and I've got no Bible smarts whatsoever. The Song of Solomon really is beautiful though--

I sleep, but my heart waketh: it is the voice of my beloved that knocketh, saying, Open to me, my sister, my love, my dove, my undefiled: for my head is filled with dew, and my locks with the drops of the night.

Georgeous.

nobackspacebutton wrote:oooh so nicely this topic has developed and turned onto this...

What are the rules of cheating?

If you masterbate and you think of someone other than your mate, are you cheating on them because you actually are cheating on them in your mind?

And flirting here online, just in the forums, without your mate knowing about it, is that almost to the lines of cheating?


And in regards to question one, if cheating on someone by thinking of someone else in your mind---is watching porn not the same?

When I watch porn, or think of others while masturbating, I do not think of ME being with them. I just get turned on by the thought. Reading erotica is better because you can picture it is you and your significant other. Flirting on the forums isnt cheating to me persay but it is wrong.. And yeah I know, I am a flirter from time to time.

I couldnt imagine getting off to the bible... oh lord.
ew.. bathroom stuff.

nobackspacebutton wrote:What is your view on porn and your other half viewing it?

My view on porn? As long as the people aren't being forced into it like Debbie Does Dallas or whatever at gunpoint, I'm fine with it. I like some porn. Gauge is completely awesome. I've had sex with Nikki Diamond before. She's a pretty famous pornstar....and let me tell you....when that girl finishes giving you head, all you can do is sit and drool....

But, as far as my ex getting turned on by it or masturbating to it...I think it's hot. It's an entertainment medium. That's what it's there for. It reminds me of something a stripper friend of mine once told me: "I've never taken a married man home to f**k. But, I've turned a lot of them on so much they couldn't wait to get home and f**k." It can be a part of a healthy relationship.

I think the idea that you can somehow cheat in your head is ridiculous. Most people, even if in a relationship, are turned on by other people. When you add porn into the mix and the other person is putting on a fake persona to be a turnon...it's even more ridiculous. How can you cheat with someone when they've never even seen you?

But, I'm even more liberal than that in my personal life. I've told my girlfriend that if I know about it, it's not cheating. If I have the option to object...then it's not cheating. Her last weekend at her old house, I even contacted her best friend and said "Hey...how about hooking her up with a guy? I think it'd really be nice if she could have a blast and get laid as a goodbye to her old life".

So, the day before she moved in with me, she had sex with one of her best friend's friends. I was happy for her. Last night we went to a fetish night at a local goth/industrial bar. We were watching a guy tie his female friends to the bondage cross and whip them a little...tease them. I asked her if she wanted to ask him if he would tie her up and play with her...so she could experience a bondage cross in a room full of people. She said no, that she was shy. Then she apologized that she wouldn't do that with me. I replied "I never meant that *I* would tie you up. I'm not that familiar with bondage crosses. I meant I'd give you to him for him to play with for a while. You could trade him a blowjob or something for it."

So, like I said...I'm pretty liberal. I don't care if she has sex with other people...as long as I know about it and have the ability to object. It's not cheating on me if she's honest and tells me. As far as flirting, making out with others, etc....do it and tell me about it later. In some cases, sex is the same way. In others, I want the ability to object first.

I don't see that as particularly strange personally. I've been like that with several girlfriends. I just don't see sex as this major thing that's only between two people. It can be with a room of people if you so desire. It's no big deal.

Hell...for her xmas present, I brought home a girl while she was at work. I had the girl strip for me, then give me oral sex...and I videotaped it all. Then, I transferred it to her Ipod and carried it to work to her. When she got off work, I handed her the ipod and she was able to watch what I'd done. She LOVED it.

Am I monogamous? Yes...I only love one person at a time romantically. But...sex is sex. It's fun. I'm not that interested in having sex with other people...my girlfriend is MORE than enough. But her having sex while I watch? SURE! Her having sex just to have sex with someone else when I'm not there? Sure. No big deal.

horcruxes wrote:

Mirage wrote:

Killthesmiley wrote: there is a really small book o poems in the bible thats kinky...its kind of neat...i can't remember where exsactly it is, but it's in the old testement, and i think it's right before psalms....
but read it...it's hot

Song of Solomon? Or am I just betraying my extreme lack of Bible knowledge?

songs of solomon is right. or they're called the song of songs.
i used to read them in 7th grade during religion class.

alright...
maybe i took them more kinkier then what they are...
still sensual

kristenjane wrote:

nobackspacebutton wrote:oooh so nicely this topic has developed and turned onto this...

What are the rules of cheating?

If you masterbate and you think of someone other than your mate, are you cheating on them because you actually are cheating on them in your mind?

And flirting here online, just in the forums, without your mate knowing about it, is that almost to the lines of cheating?


And in regards to question one, if cheating on someone by thinking of someone else in your mind---is watching porn not the same?

When I watch porn, or think of others while masturbating, I do not think of ME being with them. I just get turned on by the thought. Reading erotica is better because you can picture it is you and your significant other. Flirting on the forums isnt cheating to me persay but it is wrong.. And yeah I know, I am a flirter from time to time.

I like the reading stuff too. I prefer my own imagery to that of the movies....mostly they make me laugh.

tannhaus wrote:

nobackspacebutton wrote:What is your view on porn and your other half viewing it?

My view on porn? As long as the people aren't being forced into it like Debbie Does Dallas or whatever at gunpoint, I'm fine with it. I like some porn. Gauge is completely awesome. I've had sex with Nikki Diamond before. She's a pretty famous pornstar....and let me tell you....when that girl finishes giving you head, all you can do is sit and drool....

Wow, thats some massive oral there! Heres ya a hankey for next time!

I think porn is funny. I don't really get off to it.

Luv2Skydive wrote:

kristenjane wrote:

nobackspacebutton wrote:oooh so nicely this topic has developed and turned onto this...

What are the rules of cheating?

If you masterbate and you think of someone other than your mate, are you cheating on them because you actually are cheating on them in your mind?

And flirting here online, just in the forums, without your mate knowing about it, is that almost to the lines of cheating?


And in regards to question one, if cheating on someone by thinking of someone else in your mind---is watching porn not the same?

When I watch porn, or think of others while masturbating, I do not think of ME being with them. I just get turned on by the thought. Reading erotica is better because you can picture it is you and your significant other. Flirting on the forums isnt cheating to me persay but it is wrong.. And yeah I know, I am a flirter from time to time.

I like the reading stuff too. I prefer my own imagery to that of the movies....mostly they make me laugh.

I definately enjoy reading erotica...I used to write some of my own years ago. I love that stuff.

So is reading different from actually seeing?

I think so.

But the thought is almost the same?

See this is what I like...discussion...^_^

This topic has gotten too descriptive, people. We don't need stories about masturbation or sexual antics. Remember, we have viewers who are 13 and even younger. This is beyond PG-13, I think. I was afraid a discussion on porn would get a little too risque...sorry...