Lonelygirl15

Ennovi wrote:

LesterG wrote: I don't need a sex toy... I wanted a person by my side... forever... not just another person to screw and have follow me like a puppy dog... I always tell her.. We're in this together, I need you by my side not behind me... That's my perspective on a relationship... and that's my opinion, my own...

That's soooo sweet.

I agree...

However, I still need sex toys (thankfully I have both)!

LesterG wrote:Since this has basically been hijacked and turned into a sexuality thread... I need to comment on the whole threesome thing...


when I first met my wife, we joked around with it and one day she asked me seriously.... (maybe it was a test, but...) I honestly said no. In my perspective, it would be a fantasy... but in the end that's all it ever is... Also I understand the perspective of a double standard so I thought about it and told myself... If I get her to bring another woman... someday she's gunna want me to bring another man... and the thought of her and another man (even if I am there) destroys and kills me... I know it's selfish, but that was my choice(and hers)... and that's what I want to love... so basically I told her that and that's when she hinted that I passed

I don't need a sex toy... I wanted a person by my side... forever... not just another person to screw and have follow me like a puppy dog... I always tell her.. We're in this together, I need you by my side not behind me... That's my perspective on a relationship... and that's my opinion, my own...

Don't ever put words in my mouth.. I understand other peoples sexuality and I respect it... that's their choice... this is mine...

Sorry for the double post. The last one was more of a joking post. This one is serious.

I have a big problem with the threesome thing because I have seen first hand what it can do to people.

In one relationship, there was a threesome that the guy wanted. At first the wife said no but after a while he got her to give in. She ended up leaving him for the other woman. They broke up. He started stalking her. Sliced her tires etc because he was so ticked off at her.

In another relationship, the couple actually had another woman living with them and their children. They had threesomes. Same thing happened. The wife fell in love with the other woman. The woman once again told her husband that she was leaving him AND her 3 BABIES to be with the other woman. This one is still in the works for a divorce. He still loves her with all his heart and he is very heartbroken.

The last relationship was the worst. They had their threesomes. Same thing happened. Wife fell in love with another woman. However (this one is sad and scary)...his wife and her new lover killed the husband!!! They beat him to death. (he was actually a really good friend of my uncle so it was really shocking and sad).

I will NEVER look at threesomes the same again. So far, all the people who I've met that have ever been involved in one has had bad luck. (at least all these situations got my boyfriend to stop asking me to have one with him. Now he's scared!)

Regarding 3 somes...a lot of people want them, but really, it can ultimately hurt your relationship.

Marriage was never one guy and two girls or two guys and one girl..its a bond between two people, not three.

Really if you want a threesome, keep it to your fantasys..or just do it before you are in a relationship.

Jealousy drives people mad.

nobackspacebutton wrote:Regarding 3 somes...a lot of people want them, but really, it can ultimately hurt your relationship.

Marriage was never one guy and two girls or two guys and one girl..its a bond between two people, not three.

Really if you want a threesome, keep it to your fantasys..or just do it before you are in a relationship.

Jealousy drives people mad.

In our culture, we equate sex with love even more that we realize. For those who can keep the two completely separate, then I see nothing wrong with a threesome. Just remember, *all* parties involved need to know how to keep them separate, not just one or two of the parties. Finding three people who can keep love and sex completely separate? Nearly impossible.

'mute

Hell, son, it's nearly impossible for me to find just one.

wintermute wrote:

nobackspacebutton wrote:Regarding 3 somes...a lot of people want them, but really, it can ultimately hurt your relationship.

Marriage was never one guy and two girls or two guys and one girl..its a bond between two people, not three.

Really if you want a threesome, keep it to your fantasys..or just do it before you are in a relationship.

Jealousy drives people mad.

In our culture, we equate sex with love even more that we realize. For those who can keep the two completely separate, then I see nothing wrong with a threesome. Just remember, *all* parties involved need to know how to keep them separate, not just one or two of the parties. Finding three people who can keep love and sex completely separate? Nearly impossible.

'mute

Don't get me wrong, I think a 3some would be fun..its just after its over...the aftermath. I know I'm a big romance freak...and it would just break my heart to know my guy got pleasure from another girl. I'm the very jealous type.

I think I'm in the minority here as a guy, but I don't even fantasize about being with two women. It really holds no appeal for me. Maybe I'm just selfish, but I want to concentrate completely on my partner and I want her to be completely into me. Any more participants of either gender would just be a distraction. I don't know, half of the fun for me is knowing how much my partner is enjoying it. I get a thrill out of making my partner feel good.

nobackspacebutton wrote:

wintermute wrote:

nobackspacebutton wrote:Regarding 3 somes...a lot of people want them, but really, it can ultimately hurt your relationship.

Marriage was never one guy and two girls or two guys and one girl..its a bond between two people, not three.

Really if you want a threesome, keep it to your fantasys..or just do it before you are in a relationship.

Jealousy drives people mad.

In our culture, we equate sex with love even more that we realize. For those who can keep the two completely separate, then I see nothing wrong with a threesome. Just remember, *all* parties involved need to know how to keep them separate, not just one or two of the parties. Finding three people who can keep love and sex completely separate? Nearly impossible.

'mute

Don't get me wrong, I think a 3some would be fun..its just after its over...the aftermath. I know I'm a big romance freak...and it would just break my heart to know my guy got pleasure from another girl. I'm the very jealous type.

That would totally be me too. I've offered to do it but I know it would end up hurting me in the end so I've told him no. Thankfully our relationship has become so strong over the last 3 years (added in with those 3 stories I put up in here) he doesn't even want to do that anymore. We have each other and thats all that matters now.

LadyBugGirl wrote:

Ennovi wrote:

LesterG wrote: I don't need a sex toy... I wanted a person by my side... forever... not just another person to screw and have follow me like a puppy dog... I always tell her.. We're in this together, I need you by my side not behind me... That's my perspective on a relationship... and that's my opinion, my own...

That's soooo sweet.

I agree...

However, I still need sex toys (thankfully I have both)!

::ears perk up like a dogs::

Did someone say sex toys?

Eric wrote:I think I'm in the minority here as a guy, but I don't even fantasize about being with two women. It really holds no appeal for me. Maybe I'm just selfish, but I want to concentrate completely on my partner and I want her to be completely into me. Any more participants of either gender would just be a distraction. I don't know, half of the fun for me is knowing how much my partner is enjoying it. I get a thrill out of making my partner feel good.

You, my dear, are a real man.

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