Posted: Wed Mar 21, 2007 11:55 am
Zi, honey, I didn't think you were minimizing Judy's experience in any way. I was just venting about how Mr. Scumball's "contrition" rang absolutely false, at least to me. Kevin sounds like a completely different case, especially given what he's doing now.
How were you able to bring yourself to talk to him again? Was it because it seemed like he was genuinely remorseful?
I go to AA, as I think you know. Time after time I've heard other people in meetings express shame that they drank and drove, and deep gratitude that they never caused any accidents (except one-car accidents in which no one was seriously hurt). If I met anyone who'd actually killed someone in such an accident, I don't know what I'd do.
Myself, I drank and drove maybe once or twice. That was awful, of course. But I think I was more dangerous the night I found out my ex was seeing somebody else, and jumped into my car, completely devastated, to drive to her house and confront her. I was three months sober at the time, but I could barely see the road in front of me through my sorrow and rage. I even got stopped by a cop because I was doing 75 in a 35-mph zone. (He let me off with a warning.) But did I go home? No. I drove to her house, albeit much more slowly and carefully. As a result of the ensuing conversation, I haven't spoken to my ex in almost ten years.
Anyhoo. The point is: don't drive while impaired in any way. I got off lucky that night, and so did the rest of the people I could have hit.
How were you able to bring yourself to talk to him again? Was it because it seemed like he was genuinely remorseful?
I go to AA, as I think you know. Time after time I've heard other people in meetings express shame that they drank and drove, and deep gratitude that they never caused any accidents (except one-car accidents in which no one was seriously hurt). If I met anyone who'd actually killed someone in such an accident, I don't know what I'd do.
Myself, I drank and drove maybe once or twice. That was awful, of course. But I think I was more dangerous the night I found out my ex was seeing somebody else, and jumped into my car, completely devastated, to drive to her house and confront her. I was three months sober at the time, but I could barely see the road in front of me through my sorrow and rage. I even got stopped by a cop because I was doing 75 in a 35-mph zone. (He let me off with a warning.) But did I go home? No. I drove to her house, albeit much more slowly and carefully. As a result of the ensuing conversation, I haven't spoken to my ex in almost ten years.
Anyhoo. The point is: don't drive while impaired in any way. I got off lucky that night, and so did the rest of the people I could have hit.
